This youth group thing is something I love. The process is never ending. One of the most important aspects in my leadership approach is the rules. The first thing I tell any youth is I am not their friend. I am an adult who believes in something and my role is to guide, work with and learn from anyone who comes into the youth group. There is no need for an adult to become friends with children. I tell them I do not need to be the "cool guy". I never understand why adults have to try so hard to be like children and hope they will be liked. I realize reading this may be difficult for some to understand. The role of a youth minister is to simply guide, work with and learn. My role is to believe in something and at the same time not force anyone else to believe as I do. I have to listen and each member of the group has to have the freedom to express their thoughts without fear. You see I do not believe in accepting people for who they are. We, without realizing elevate ourselves above those we accept. What I believe is I have to understand who is before me. This means I have to devote everything to them and sometimes leave my own thoughts aside. When we do this we become the listener, the person who hears for the first time. This is important. We can arrive at a consensus. I believe no one is more faithful than another. My faith is determined by my life circumstances and another's is determined by theirs.No ones is better than the others. The good news is God understand us all and loves us all equally. That is the lesson.